Confessions of a Full-Time Mom With Author & Mom Francielle Daly by Renee

Motherhood can be a joyful and rewarding experience, but it can also be frustrating and challenging. With all of the pressures of being the “perfect” mom, sometimes we need to pause and remember that it is OK to not have it all together! 30Seconds contributor, Francielle Daly, is a mom of three, founder of FullTimeMom.org and author of "Confessions of a Full Time Mom.” She discussed the importance of talking about the moments that we usually want to hide and ignore. We learned how to give ourselves permission to share our stories and the importance of having a community or “tribe” of people who support you as you are! Read on to learn more...

Q: What is a “Full Time Mom?” “Confessions of a Full Time Mom?” Why did you choose this title?

A confession is an admission or acknowledgment of doing something that is shameful or embarrassing. Moms often feel ashamed at one point or another in their parenting. I wanted to share true stories that most moms can relate to but would never willingly share. These stories show courage and strength that we should all acknowledge and celebrate. 

We have many titles: stay-at-home mom (SAHM), working mom, work-at-home mom, mompreneur. These titles can be isolating and when it comes down to it, no matter the season we are in, we are moms. We are moms when we go to work, school and social events. We are always a "Full Time Mom." Being a mom is the most important job we will ever have.

I’m so excited and ready for this chat! (Ignore the fuzziness- my phone hates me 😑) #30seconds pic.twitter.com/LDrzceJ9jP

— Renee (@HerrenRenee) July 19, 2018

Q: What did you learn when you started researching for this book?

I learned that each mom has a very unique story, but the wants, needs and feelings are all the same. We truly are not alone! Many other moms can relate to what we are going through or have went through. Sometimes sharing our situation is embarrassing, but how you deal with and overcome your challenges could be an answered prayer to someone else. I also learned how each mom overcame the situation they were in, many had one source that got them through their difficulty and it's amazing to see the commonality.

True. Strongest people I know are moms. #30seconds

— Elisa All Schmitz (@elisatalk) July 19, 2018

Q: What did you share about yourself in the book and why did you write the book?

At my 20-week ultrasound checkup during my second pregnancy, my son had no heartbeat. We lost our son. You will have to read my book for the full story. The goal of this book was to take to heart that we hear a lot of internal voices and judgments happening when those thoughts and feelings are not happening. All of us go through this. We are not alone! 

I wanted to share there are no perfect moms. At the end of the day, our kids are looking to us to be the mom that is perfect for them. PERIOD. I also wanted to emphasize the importance of community! That is why  30Seconds is so amazing! We have so many differences, yet we have so much to offer each other!

😢 so sorry. Can’t imagine what that must of felt like. Need to read your book. I had a miscarriage in between my 2nd & 3rd pregnancy. 😞 #30Seconds

— Meredith Schneider (@Merber38) July 19, 2018

Q: What prompted you to create a safe space for moms at FulltimeMom.com?

My husband took me to Tony Robbins for our second date! Yes, our second date! At the time I was a single mom working two jobs as a medical assistant and had no idea what entrepreneurship was. Shortly after, I attended CEO Space and that’s when the words "blog," "website" and "community" became reality! I continued to dive deep in my personal development and relationship with Jesus.

As I understood what "Full Time Mom" meant to me and so many, I created a community inside the website and offline from mom’s night out to local meetups. I had my first mom conference five years ago and then the following month I had the miscarriage. I continued to have meetups because that is what I needed at the time, but it never grew. This year, Full Time Mom has come a long way. At our “Mom Equipped Conference,” a faith-based mom conference, we had over 150 moms join us!

Diversity is important---we learn more that way. #30Seconds

— 💕 Toni B 💕 (@rychepet) July 19, 2018

Q: So what does it mean to find your tribe or community?

The war between the SAHM and the working mom need to stop! The competition between then crunchy mom vs. the all-about-convenience moms need to stop! We are all raising children and it is not easy. We need to love each other, uplift one another and cheer each other on. Finding your tribe means that everyone in your circle loves/supports you no matter what you say or do. They have your back and will tell you when something needs to be tweaked in a loving nonjudgmental way!

Your tribe. Your circle of closest friends. Your family. These are the people you feel the most comfortable with and trust with your deepest and darkest mom confessions. They are safe. If you don’t feel this way about your friends, you need to keep looking!

I have been member of the  30Seconds community for almost five years and not one time have I felt left out, discouraged or misunderstood. Every person has given me feedback with love and compassion. Elisa and the tribe has always shown me love and support.

You touch my heart! Thank you. Can’t imagine our tribe without you. Can’t believe it’s been five years. Big love to you, my friend! #30seconds

— Elisa All Schmitz (@elisatalk) July 19, 2018

Q: What is the Mom Equipped Conference?

I had my third daughter two years ago. I was having to start this whole new mom thing over while trying to make future plans for Full Time Mom. In my quiet time, I pray, I seek God’s guidance, and in that time I kept hearing: identity. The next thing I knew, I was planning this conference with an amazing team that brought in over 150 moms to understand what it meant to be mom and not lose who they were as an individual. It was fabulous a two-day event! Friday started us off with a Mom's Night Out! From a comedy show, dinner, manicures, to a full-body massage! 

What I witnessed that night was a group of moms finally giving themselves permission to be served!The weekend included two workshops that was focused on forgiveness, anger, the drama triangle, communication, praying inside and out, mompreneur, time management, and Identity in Christ/God. We also had an Exhibitor/Nonprofit area full of amazing businesses. Did I tell you how excited I am for our second annual coming up in spring 2019!?

Having a TRIBE is another source of strength #30seconds

— 💕 Toni B 💕 (@rychepet) July 19, 2018

Q: So what’s next?

We will be coordinating monthly meetups in the southwest suburb. Check our website or Facebook page for all the details! We will have our second annual Mom Equipped conference come spring 2019. Keep an eye out for dates and more info! We will be launching the second edition for “ Confessions of a Full Time Mom!” If you can relate to some of the stories in the book and if you feel like you have an awesome story – I want to talk with you! Let’s get your story and make you an author! If you want any or all information about any of the info discussed tonight, please visit us at& FulltimeMom.org! &

Goodnight! xo Thank you for always providing such great resources for so many and the tribe you wanna be part of! No doubt! xo #30seconds

— FullTimeMom_ (@FullTimeMom_) July 19, 2018

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